Chinese Table Manner - Best Advice to Dine in China

China has long been known as a nation of rites. People attach importance to politeness, courtesy and comity on any formal occasion, whether it is a wedding ceremony, a celebration party, or a banquet. Traditional Chinese customs have even spread throughout East Asia.

The Chinese prefer to entertain in the public places rather than in their homes, especially when entertaining foreigners. If you are invited to their house, consider it a great honor. If you must turn down such an honor, it is considered polite to explain the conflict in your schedule so that your actions are not taken as a slight.

As they say, When in Rome, do as the Romans do. The following baic table manners will help you initially master the Chinese dinner etiquette and ensure a pleasant dining experience.

Seating place sequence should be pay attention to:

The typical seating arrangement is a part of Chinese dining etiquette. That is to say the respectable members, usually the elders or the guest of honor are given the best place – the place at the head of the table. It is discourteous to seat guests at the place where the dishes are served.

Right is the honor guest and the left is the opposite. It is just the opposite of the western culture. The reason is that the Chinese food is always served by a clockwise direction, so the guests on the right can be cared more.

According to Chinese table manners, center seat is the most honorable: When three are dining together, the person in center position is higher than the people in the seats on both sides.

The seat facing the door: According to etiquette practices, when having dinner, the better seats are those facing the main entrance.

Better seats facing the landscape in the exclusive restaurants, there usually have elegant and beautiful scenery or the performances indoor which is for diner viewing. So the best viewing angle for watching is the best seat.

Best seats are besides the platform: If there have special platform in banquet hall, the table which closes to the platform is the main dining table.

What we have to pay attention to is that in the formal bouquet, the tables should be in the same direction.

If it is a party, the direction of the honor guest in each table should maintain the same direction with host table.

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General advice for dinning in China:

Wait to be seated. Never sit at the head of a table unless you are instructed to do so.

Never take food, or eat before an older person at the table.

Dinning may only begin provided both the hosts and guests are seated. To better serve the small groups of guests, square dining tables are more often used than rectangular tables to permit easy sharing.

If you ever take out a napkin for yourself, be sure to pass napkins to everyone at the table.

If you hold your bowl, palm the bowl from the bottom. Your fingers or thumb should never touch the lip of the bowl. Holding the bowl is acceptable, but is more casual. In a business setting, do not hold your bowl while eating.

Respect the chopstick, and you should not lick chopsticks, use them to stir up the food, point them at others, or even worse, stick them in the middle of the rice bowl. While waiting for the next course of dish, the chopsticks should be put on the chopstick rest.

All the food is to be shared, except your own bowl of rice. The dishes are placed in the center of the table, and everyone can feel free to help yourself. Please remember not to make any noise when chewing the food.

When you do take food, place it on top of your rice. Never mix your food with your rice. Never take more than one item at a time. That is the correct table manners in China.

Soups are usually eaten last. Wait until you have nearly finished eating and then plan for the soup to be the last thing you eat.

Tea is usually served in a formal Chinese dinning. The one sitting closest to the teapot should pour tea for others. When the tea is served one should say “thank you” or make a gesture of thanks. However, the host should not let guests pour tea.

It is ok for you to stand up and reach for your food, if there is not a lazy Susan.

Try the fried bees and pig brain. Most of the “crazy” food items are pretty good. Pig brain tastes like creamy tofu. Fried bees taste like crunchy chips.

If you eat at a Muslim restaurant in China, never ask for any pork dishes or even mention the word pigs. It can, and most likely will upset the owners and other patrons. Most of the Muslims in China are part of the Huizu ethnic minority. Their cuisine is off-the-charts good. If you are lucky enough to eat at one of their restaurants, try the squash, the beef soup, the spicy dried beef, or the stomach linings.

Sometimes a guest will bring a friend, unannounced. This isn’t a big deal, because there is always enough food for a few extra people.

A dinner can last hours. You’ll hear “man man che” a lot, and that translates to “slowly, slowly, eat.” Don’t scarf food down, and don’t only eat the dishes you like.

Chinese people may leave a lot of food behind at the table. Most of the time this food is recycled and fed to pigs, so don’t worry about waste.

The more you eat, the happier your host will be. If you eat a small amount, especially if someone made a home-cooked meal, you may insult your host.

Never let anyone still eating feel rushed to finish their meal.

It is okay to answer your phone at a table, absolutely no one will care.

In a home setting, if you want to wash the dishes, never take any dishes away from the table unless it is clear that everyone has finished eating. If you do this, it is a cue to your guests that you want them to leave.

Chinese people love to walk, or “san bu” after they eat, they say it helps with digestion. 

The bill

If you have been invited to eat, you can make an attempt to get the check, but don’t actually pay the bill as you may lose the other party’s face. If someone calls you to go out, they are expected to pay. Nonetheless, fighting over the bill is always a good way to gain points.

Don’t ever try to give the host 50% of the bill to “pay your half”. In China, as stated just above, whoever is inviting someone out to eat is expected to pay for everyone. If you want to immediately return the favor, offer to take the person who paid out to a bar, karaoke, or to drink tea.

Stand up and start pulling the host by the arm and try to yank him back to his seat. Arm waving and arm pulling is always good.

If they manage to pay the waiter first, grab their money out of the waiter’s hand and give it back them, then give the waiter your money instead.

The bigger the scene you cause the better. Don’t worry if they seem disgruntled, they actually will be delighted with your enthusiasm. 

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